A Ghanaian counselor has warned intending couples to avoiding marrying anyone who puts passwords on their phones.
Counselor Adofoli wrote:
If you
are single and thinking of marriage then please don't marry anyone who
puts passwords or locks on their phone as a form of security to prevent
you from accessing their conversations.
They
can surely do this for other security measures, but you must not be the
reason for this action. I am very much aware that passwords or lock are
for security purposes but one thing I don't approve of is when a spouse
becomes the reason for that security measure.
There
is nothing like secrecy or privacy in marriage, let no one deceive you
there is, and let no one tell you he or she is doing that to save you
from getting hurt. Marriage is a holy institution, there is nothing like
hiding. Marriage is made for life and one of the very things that can
destroy it is acts of hiding things.
The bible says in Genesis 2:25 (TLB)
"Now
although the man and his wife were both naked, neither of them was
embarrassed or ashamed". What are you embarrassed or ashamed of your
spouse seeing? If you can't be truthful, honest and transparent with
them, then there is no need getting married to them. It doesn't matter
how you feel about them.
Mark 10:8 (NLV) says
“The
two will become one. So they are no longer two, but one”. I therefore
suggest to you, if he or she is hiding things from you, it simply means
they don’t want to become one with you. Such a marriage won’t last.
Many
people don't know trust is more important than love in any relationship
especially marriage. Love without trust is empty. Trust enhances love,
it makes it beautiful and fortified. Trust is very essential. Not even
thieves can work together if they can't trust each other. An employer
and employee cannot have a good relationship if trust doesn't exist. It
takes trust for citizens to elect one of their own as their leader or
president. It takes trust for God to perform miracles in our lives as
humans.
Your
relationship is bound to fail if you agree to marry someone you don't
trust. The simple question is, if I can trust you with the most
important organ in my life which is the heart, that which holds my life
in the name of love, then why can't I trust you with a phone
conversation or chat? If the chat is more important than me, then you
don't need me in your life. I'm supposed to be the most important person
in your life and can't stand the competition with passwords.
Once I
agree to marry you, it means I trust you, and there is no need to
suspect you, or secretly read your chats etc. in your absence. In
Ephesians 5:21 (TLB) bible instructs spouses to "Honor Christ by
submitting to each other".
In
other words, respect each other and for that matter If I need to have
access to your phone or social media account, I need to seek your
approval or ask for your permission.
Our
goal in marriage is to be good couples. A good wife will be the
husband's peace and a good husband will be the wife's protection. If you
are married but find yourself guilty by this message, please change.
You might not understand the damage you are causing your marriage and
spouse until the same thing is done to you.
In
conclusion "If you do the right thing, honesty will be your guide. But
if you are crooked, you will be trapped by your own dishonesty" -
Proverbs 11:3 (CEV).
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